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KB in Bloom

"YOU NEED YOU"



Happy Women's History Month and International Women's Day! When I think about the history of women, I think about being fearless. I feel fearless because women stood up for me while not even knowing me. Before I was even born, women changed the rules with the future in mind and I am still feeling the effects of these changes. Looking back, I wonder if these impactful women had enough time to even think about themselves. To take a self care day. To recharge themselves before changing the world. I can't imagine how tiresome it was to just keep going until change was made. We are still fighting for women's rights across the globe, however pouring from an empty cup can defeat the purpose. "YOU NEED YOU".


Enter Kabrena Williams (Kb)! Featured in"8 Black Women Bloggers You Should Follow on Instagram", Kb shows us how to make NO EXCUSES when it comes to giving yourself some much needed self-care. I have personally purchased her book titled "Sis Be At Ease Positive Affirmation" and I am absolutely in love with the way she shows how simple self care can be. Read my exclusive interview with Kb below!



Rach: Introduce yourself! Tell us your name, where you're from, and why you decided to start your business/blog? 


Kb: I’m Kabrena or Kb and I’m originally from Southwest Florida. I decided to start my site, Kb in Bloom due to my own frustration with not being able to resonate with a lot of blogs found online. I had recently gotten laid off and found myself reading more and for weeks following the layoff, I was dissatisfied with the online content I would read. I craved black owned sites that weren’t writing about pop culture, or celebrity news/gossip. I wanted sites for everyday women of color, so I chose to create one. Thus, Kb in Bloom was born in 2020.


Rach: What according to you is your favorite part of being a blogger? 


Kb: That word “blogger” is something I identified with more a couple of years ago, not so much now. I run a site, where blogs are published but I’m essentially building a brand. We just launched a second site and yes, I am technically blogging about things but with a mere focus and structure to it so that what we publish is something users want to read about and adds value to the reader landing on our site. So, if I were to say the favorite part about blogging, it would be answering comments on our pages from users who enjoyed the piece of content. 4 years later and it never gets old to me. 


Rach: I recently bought your book titled “Sis Be At Ease Positive Affirmation Book” and it’s so helpful how you created affirmations that are simple, clear, and straight to the point. When did you first learn about affirmations and what inspired you to create your own book?  


Kb: I learned about them when I was a little girl. I think a lot of what I created when I was younger, were song lyrics and poems. I won awards throughout high school for my poems and never told anyone about it. I just wanted to keep that gift to myself so, it’s interesting now, I’m regularly publishing affirmations on the site. I am happy that I’m sharing the ‘gift’ today with others to read but on the contrary, it was also a special time for me in high school writing poems because then I would just write it, and not have to worry about someone else enjoying what I published. I wrote Sis, Be at Ease around the same time I was laid off. I truly was in my head about it and figured, let’s go back to the drawing board and do what used to help me regulate. It’s my coping mechanism and words are so healing when stringing them together. 


Rach: As I read your bio on your website you mention that you wanted to help “redefine what self-care as a black millennial woman means today”. What does self care for the black woman look like for us? 


Kb: I want the everyday millennial woman to feel good about the journey she’s on w/o judgment. Even though judgment or comparison is inevitable, catching those thought patterns can be turned into something beautiful in a sense.


For instance, the other day I was in my head about, “not writing fast enough for the site. I am a full time clinician by day and I work on it so much during the week, that I only saw the accomplishments through new reads or blog posts. I had to re-route my thoughts to things that I have done and are accomplishing like releasing a new podcast episode on Bloom & Bounty or writing new content on our sister site, Nailz in Bloom. That rough internal dialogue turned into something so tender and I needed that introspection. 


And as far as self-care for black women in 2024, it represents a powerful departure from the pervasive narratives of struggle culture and toxic productivity that have long been normalized.


Kb: Historically, Black women have been celebrated for their resilience and ability to endure hard work and challenging lifestyles, encapsulated in the "strong Black woman" stereotype. This stereotype, while intended to commend, has inadvertently placed a heavy burden on Black women, suggesting that their value lies in their capacity to bear hardship.

My take on it is that true self-care challenges this narrative, emphasizing the importance of Black women prioritizing their physical and emotional well-being. It's about rejecting the notion that their worth is measured by their endurance and instead embracing practices that nourish the body, mind, and spirit. 


Rach: You wrote a post titled “How to Embrace Doing Nothing: The Ultimate Guide''. I thoroughly enjoyed it because I agree that “we are told that we must always be doing something” (and social media doesn’t help)! What’s the best way to practice stillness in a chaotic world around us? 


Kb: Thank you. I really loved writing that write-up. I have always struggled with this. We all can relate at one time or another this thought of, “If I’m not doing something for the business, I must not care about it.”  We know that’s not true. You can rest and be about your business. These things aren’t mutually exclusive. But the advice I would give to someone who is yearning for more stillness in their life is to not create this set schedule or regimented practice around it, do it when you feel you need it or when you are having a great day and don’t feel you need it. It’s always a good practice to do some self-reflection. The fact that you are even considering it, is a good indicator that you have good body wisdom and that’s half the battle. 


Rach: What advice would you give someone who expresses that they simply don’t have enough time for self-care?


Kb: Ask yourself, how much time are you expecting to devote to a self-care practice, is it realistic and do you light up at the thought of adhering to this schedule? And who placed that expectation on you? It all begins with your thoughts. You may not have time to go to a weekend spa or take a yoga class because work has been hectic and you are physically exhausted but you can start re-wiring negative thought patterns. You don’t have to go anywhere or pay someone to do that. I would start with things that feel accessible and bring ease. If trying to dedicate yourself to self-care stresses you out, go to your thoughts. Your body will feel the difference when you spend time in that mental space before trying to do all of the things on your list that you feel are “self-care practices.”


Rach: Where can we find you online and on social media?


Kb: I’ll leave our socials and information below but thank you so much for this interview. I really enjoyed answering your questions. 









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Kb I truly appreciate you and give you your flowers. Thank you for providing a safe place for us to decompress and learn the best ways to self care!


Love, Rach



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