So I Asked The Ladies For You ...
Fellas.
You want to get in our heads? Let us tell you how we really feel? I got you.
Out of the 20 women I asked, I picked out the most unique responses. Let me know what you think about it.
Question #1: What are things that men do that turn you on?
"At this point in my life seeing my man be a great father and husband is what turns me on the most. He is so sexy in his dad / husband role."
"Be confident"
"Manly things- building stuff, fixing things, carrying heavy stuff"
"Being chivalrous, being a God-fearing man, offering help without the woman asking for it, maintaining a good hygiene, making romantic gestures, being attentive and making eye contact when speaking and while being spoken too, having good communication skills and being a steward of money, being ambitious and family oriented are all major turn-ons"
"Opening up the door for me"
"Sincerely interested in knowing me, knowing my mind and the essence of me"
"Hold your hand, put their arm around you or give a kiss in public. Cook or clean. Massage. Surprise with an unexpected gift."
"Hold hands while driving, hands on me at all times, being attentive"
"Follow through, have manners for all people in all situations and speak about past lover’s respectfully"
"The way they look at me."
"Being a gentlemen and cleanliness"
"Open up doors for me, walk on the outside of me"
"Be accountable, do what they say, show up for you in the way you express you need it."
Question #2: What's your favorite thing for a man to wear?
"Cologne"
"Suit"
"Coordinated casual athletic gear"
"A nice smelling Cologne."
"A tailored suit is never out of style"
"Tailored Suits"
"Gym clothes 😂"
"SnapBack with a shirt and jeans"
"Business casual"
"I love a man in uniform! I married a firefighter ! And there is something about a backwards hat!"
Question #3: Supp Baby... Take Me Out to Dinna...LOL What are your thoughts about paying for dates? Would you want to pay? Would you want to split it?
"I'm old school a man should court a woman and pay to show that he is capable of being the man she seeks"
"I’m open to the idea however I lie for him to pay for the first date."
"The man should definitely pay for the date especially if it’s a first date. There’s lots of other things women can do for men but paying for a date ain’t one of them"
"I have an old school mentality and believe the man should pay majority of the time, but I am flexible and don’t mind splitting or paying the bill every once in awhile 😊"
"Splitting is fine"
"I would want him to pay"
"I have no problem paying once our relationship is established, balance is necessary"
"I tend to lean towards whoever asks to do X activity should at least be prepared to pay, if I’m asking you to lunch/dinner I’m fully prepared to pay but am not upset if we split it or you offer to pay."
"If I ask you out, I don't mind paying. If you ask me you should pay. But I will buy a round of drinks or pay for parking.
"They need to pay if it’s early on in the relationship, if you’ve been together for years then it’s alright to treat your hubby every now and then."
"I don’t mind splitting or paying after the first couple dates though."
"Nope, I'm old fashion! The men always pay lol"
"I don't mine paying except for the first couple of dates"
Question #4: Are you seriously expecting an honest reply to “does this make me look fat?
"Depends on what time of the month it is" "No way lol"
"No"
"I’d only ask that to someone if I really wanted the blunt truth. Therefore, there are only a few people in my life I’d expect to be told the truth about that subject."
"Yes always"
"Yes - in a nice way"
"Absolutely! a honest and compassionate reply"
"Yes"
"I will never even ask that question ! Tell her she is beautiful!"
"Yes please!"
"I would never ask that question. But i would ask if something looks good or not. And yes, i want an honest answer."
"Yes. What he sees is what the world sees"
"Yes lol"
Question #5: What are some major turnONs?
"I love when my man, will come up from behind me while I'm cooking and grab my butt or hug me around my waist and kiss my neck. I also love my hair played with while we are watching tv lol"
"Physically: nice eyes and sense of personal style Non physical: confident (the appropriate amount) and the ability to make me laugh"
"Making dinner, playing my favorite songs, surprising me with a spontaneous road trip"
"Being clean and well dressed. Confidence, but not arrogance. Eye contact. A nice smile. Great conversation."
"Tattoos"
"This answer can get a little too x-rated so I’m going to skip for now 😊"
"When he is humble and compassionate of others but ready to kick ass if need be"
"Well dressed, beard 😍, cologne, kind, deep voices , sure of himself"
"Being a gentleman"
"Confidence and kindness"
"Has his own place. Has a plan for his future. Dark skin. Deep voice. Can hold a deep conversation."
"Cleanliness , priorities straight , a good father."
"Tattoos, grabbing my waist, kissing on neck, grabbing my face when kissing"
Question #6: Why can’t you decide where you want to eat? Too many choices? Are you being Petty? TELL ME!!!!!!!
"Yes give me choices and I’ll choose from the choices!"
"Too many choices"
"Too many choices , tired of the same places."
"It depends, sometimes if I’m asked and I’m already past the point of streaming nothing and everything sounds good to me at the same time so seriously idc just pick a place at that point. Typically though I know what I want to eat and I just say it."
"Too many choices, I’ll feel like eating tacos but pasta at the same time."
"I eat the same thing too much to decide on something different 😂"
"I DON'T KNOW to this day and I'm 36 I want a little bit of everything"
"We are just too indecisive, especially when there are too many choices, I like when the man takes the initiative to make the decision when I can’t."
"Can't find a good restaurant here"
"Nope! We are not being petty at least I’m not. I love food so I’m not afraid to say what I want to eat and the days I can’t make up my mind I leave it to my husband to decide"
"Wanting to make sure its something the other person likes as well. I don't want to be selfish."
"We are indecisive by nature!! I can’t answer this question!"
Question #7: Do you want us to beat up a guy if he’s getting up in your face or do we just leave it because you can take care of yourself?
"I want you to walk up to me and assess the situation. Baby you good? Yeah I’m good this nigga just got me fucked up."
"I can take care of myself"
"If a guy is treating a lady badly in front of other men.. those men BETTER step up to help even if they think she doesn’t need help…"
"Leave it. I got it. You had better know if abd when someone has crossed the line and you need to step in."
"Ummm a man should know better then to get in other man’s woman’s face that means you are dealing with a sissy and I will allow my man to give him a lesson"
"I can handle myself"
"Maybe not beat up, but threaten first lol Have you all seen Yellowstone ? Rip is so damn sexy when he protects Beth."
"Beat up the guy or defend me, that’s super hot"
"Uh no sir, defend me and my honor. Pull up for yours"
"I think I can't take care of myself but be in the background just in case"
"I prefer to avoid unsafe situations altogether, but if a guy was disrespectful toward me I do want my man to stand up for me, in a way that doesn’t lead to a physical altercation."
"Handle it for me if he doesn’t listen when I try to."
"Not beat up, but asking if everything is ok is helpful and then feel the vibe out from my answer. My face says it all so if I’m not ok you’ll see it"
Question #8 : Just because we find a member of the opposite sex attractive, doesn’t mean we’d have sex with them if we had the chance. Why does it set a trigger off in your mind?
"I think it’s because most women want a connection when they have sex with a guy.. it’s not just all about the looks."
"Men tend to assume that they are entitled to sex if a woman shows the slightest bit of interest. That is annoying and a turnoff."
"No"
"Because c’mon how often is that the case?"
"I’m an understanding type of still get jealous sometimes"
"It does not for me. I am a non jealous woman. This happens in insecure men and woman who don’t either 1. Love themselves or 2. They don’t trust themselves so they can’t trust their partner"
"It doesn’t, idc if you think other people are attractive because I do too. If I trust you I’m secure enough in our relationship to know the difference between finding someone attractive and wanting to sleep with them"
"It doesn’t, idc if you think other people are attractive because I do too. If I trust you I’m secure enough in our relationship to know the difference between finding someone attractive and wanting to sleep with them"
"Many women have been cheated on and it brings out insecurities"
"Thank you for being honest. But actions speak louder then words. Imma need you to be aware of how that statement might make be feel (trigger) after our conversation. Reassure me a couple of times then I’m fine."
"Doesn’t"
"Because for me I automatically think about what that girl has that I don’t. And I’m sure if given the opportunity you will have sex if you had the chance"
"It doesn't. You can just find them attractive but not sexual"
"I am a pretty confident woman and not the jealous type so I agree that a man can find another woman attractive and not have the urge to want to sleep with them, vice versa with women finding men attractive but not having the urge to sleep with them."
"Men tend to assume that they are entitled to sex if a woman shows the slightest bit of interest. That is annoying and a turn off.”
“I’m an understanding type but I still get jealous sometimes”
”I think it’s because most women want a connection when they have sex with a guy…it’s not just all about looks.”
“It doesn’t. I don’t care if you find other people attractive because I do too. If I trust you I’m secure enough in our relationship to know the difference between finding someone attractive and wanting to sleep with them.”
”Because for me I automatically think about what the girl has that I don’t. And I’m sure if given the opportunity you will have sex if given the chance.”
“Many women have been cheated on and it brings our insecurities.”
”It doesn’t. You can just find them attractive but not sexual.”
Question #9: How common is it for Women to lie about their orgasms?
“I have never lied so idk”
”It’s very normal. Sometimes I’m only in the mood to please my man so I fake my orgasm so he gets turned on more and that way I can please him harder.”
“How common do people check their Instagram?”
“Very common 😂”
”VERY common. But Men need to know that a woman doesn’t need to climax every time for them to still enjoy sex. It’s harder for us and it’s not gonna happen every time.”
”Common”
“Pretty common”
“Pretty common. I would say out of 10 i orgasm maybe 5.”
”Personally I don’t and I’ve definitely hurt a few egos on that but overall probably common.”
“For me, not common at all”
“I don’t lie about it!”
”I believe more than you know speaking with others“
Question #10: What‘s the first thing you notice about a man?
“His neck”
”His charm, and smile it needs to be unique and genuine.”
”His voice“
“His teeth”
“Their appearance and how the carry themselves.”
“Height!!! You must be at least 6 foot!”
“Their demeanor and how they carry themselves”
“Face & teeth”
Question#11: What are some major turnoffs?
"Laziness - no work ethic”
“Asshole attitude”
“Stinky breath, pushover, no ambition”
“Rudeness, aggression, poor hygiene, lack of ambition, no goals”
“The way they talk to a women, if it’s rude major turn off. If they’re not humble, if all they talk about is themselves”
“Doesn’t have his own place. Cocky.”
"Bad hygiene, showing disrespect to their mother, smoking, drinking too much, disrespectful, chews with mouth open, using too many profanities when speaking, a womanizing man, lack of ambition and lazy.”
“Bad hygiene”
“Lack of basic manners, excessive cursing, if they are rude to waitstaff, bartenders, etc and when someone talks at me not to me”
“Sloppy and slobbery kissing. Gross! I do not want my whole face covered in your spit.”
“Laziness, no drive to be successful, not making his family a priority at the same time”
“Inconsistency, rudeness, subtle degrading speech, cannot dress”
“Talking about an ex or sex life”
There you go fellas. Have more questions? Drop them in the comments below.
Thank you to my wonderful ladies that participated in my survey.
Happy Valentines Day Lovers.
Love, Rach
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